Spiritual Life Coaching

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When we change our perspective, let go and let God, and stop trying to control and manage the outcomes, stop looking backwards and remaining stuck in the painful memories, we can begin to heal. We have to learn to forgive and understand how we hold onto the trauma and interact with our own mental health issues. If we want true healing, a balanced perspective and measured results, we need to ask God to step in and start directive our steps. We need to build and increase our faith, and elevate our ability to trust in God and His plan. We can grow our trust and increase our faith when we make the choice to shift our focus from the world to seeking Christ in every situation. This means we need to make intentional changes. Start or rebuilding a daily prayer routine and beginning or recommitting to reading scripture daily can begin the journey into deep and personal and much needed healing. Reading the word can open our mind to how we interact with the world around us. Reading scripture can help us achieve clarity and much needed discernment as we rebuild and deepen our faith walk with Christ. Joining a bible study can lead to greater learning, understanding and connection to our faith community. But the word can also help us to understands and learn how to find forgiveness for others and toward ourselves. When we can find understanding, forgiveness and acceptance in our lived experiences, the life we are living, both the good aspects and the shortcomings, start asking what am I supposed to be learning in the storm, we can find healing and reconcile many of our mental health concerns to the experience that has purpose and value. When we gain the wisdom, understand the purpose, we can then move into a much deeper and more meaningful relationship with Christ. And this is a win. 

When we intentionally make choice to move differently in the world, allow God to direct our steps, we have given over the control to Him. But we can falter and struggle in our journey. But we now have a meaningful and purpose driven journey to embark upon and one that Has God in the driver seat. It can be helpful to develop proven coping strategies, short term and long-term skills to help us remain or return to a grounded state of mind, where impulse and anger leave, and calmness and peace can return, bringing us back into focus. In so many ways, finding acceptance in things from the past, transgressions, slights or intentional harm done to us, things that we’ve done that continue to cause us significant distress, we need to come to a place of radical acceptance, a term that is part of the DBT treatment modality, a concept of accepting things from the past as things we cannot change, but none the less happened. We need to stop putting our energy into dwelling on the past, the pain and the things lost, but begin moving forward, let the past go. We need to remember that God does not want us to keep looking back, getting stuck there, because it interferes with our ability to move forward in His plan for our lives. Getting stuck in the past is a trap orchestrated by the devil to keep us in the pain, out of focus and unwilling to move in our God given purpose.